I’m on a [reading] roll!
In marriage, is love really enough? Now that’s a common question, don’t you think?
Having grown up in a broken home, I always thought that a good marriage was something only found in fairy tales. I was pleased to find out later on that a good, strong, faithful, and godly marriage can actually be a reality. But I always wondered, how is it possible? Do people just get lucky? Does it depend on how attractive or ‘cool’ you are as a spouse? Are people just naturally better at it than others?
I figured I wouldn’t get all my answers, but as a single woman with my family background, I always wanted to understand more about marriage. No other book explains the relationship between a husband and wife better than Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. I first heard about it through one of my former employers (and one of my mentors), Anthony Pangilinan. Shortly after, I heard about it again from my friend, Eric Villarama. Anthony and Eric both have awesome marriages (Anthony is married to Maricel Laxa and Eric is married to Donita Rose), so I made a mental note to check out this book. One year later, I’m happy that I finally got a copy!
Based on Ephesians 5:33, the book gives a fresh perspective on marriage the way God intended it to be. People can read this verse over and over again and totally miss out on what Dr. Eggerichs picked up and wrote about in detail in this book. Have you ever heard of unconditional love? Yes, right? What about unconditional respect? Now that’s something you don’t hear often.
I don’t want to spoil it because I think it’s a “must-read” for all married folks out there. And for all the single people like me, I think it’s a great book to read, too. It sheds a lot of light on the differences between men and women, so if you find yourself often having conflicts with the people around you from the opposite sex (e.g. parents, siblings, classmates, co-workers), this just might be the reference material you need. :)